I recently spent lunch and the afternoon with my Dad, his best friend (and Best Man), and his best friend's family. It was absolutely amazing to me how my Dad and his best friend from high school, Brad, had not only stayed in contact with one another 20 plus years later, but that they were also able to get together and have lunch. You couldn't even tell that it had been years since they'd seen each other in person. They talked about the past, their high school and after glory days. Caught each other up on the present and where they were in life now. And planned for the future, not waiting so long to get together again.
I think that reason this afternoon has been on my mind is that it really hit home in my life. Lately I've really been feeling like I've grown so far apart from my best friends of high school. Granted my life has changed since those days. And theirs obviously have too. We're just in such different places now. As a result of that I feel like it's harder and harder to connect with them in the ways that I used to. The phone calls catching each other up have gotten more and more spaced out. Our friendship seems to exist more over the random comment on facebook than it does through phone calls and face to face contact. And I've only been out of high school for four years. How are we supposed to make it to that lunch 20 plus years down the road if we can't even stay in contact easily with each other four years later?
Not to mention that my Dad's friend Brad now lives on the other side of the world, most recently Bagladash, and my friends and me all live in the same city.
It frustrates and upsets me to no end. While I've made new friends and they have as well, I want to remain a part of their lives and have them remain apart of mine. I want that lunch where you sit back and remember all the stories from high school. All the mind boggling things we did and the things we got away with, even if it was just barely. These are the girls that know the story as well as I do because they were apart of it as much as I was.
I know that I'm just as capable as staying in contact with them as they are with me, but sometimes it's hard. Hard knowing that friendships in high school are different from friendships out of it. You don't know that you'll see each other every day, you don't know all the same people, and we aren't all in the same places in our lives anymore. But still I want us to all be apart of each other's lives.
How about you? Still friends with people from your high school days? Any secrets to keeping in contact?